Many times children show their discontent through bad behavior, and parents hastily judge the little one by labeling him “bad.” In reality there are no bad children, they just have to learn to behave better so that in this way, they are able to enjoy a harmonious family relationship … But they need your patience and your constant guidance.
Never label a child for misbehavior because there is ALWAYS an emotion behind it that must be discovered and understood.
EI will help children to have a good self-knowledge, a better management and a better understanding of frustration or any other emotion that is usually considered negative.
With EI, children will learn to understand themselves better and consequently, they will also learn to understand others … that is, empathy and respect for oneself and for others will begin to grow. Good behavior will carry more weight because you will understand your emotions better and you will not feel the need to express in some way (such as bad behavior), the most negative or intense emotions.
Children with character
There are many children who have a lot of character, who are born already temperamental. This is not bad, they will need a greater closeness with their parents, and a more constant guidance. Regardless of what the children are like, they will always need a respectful parenting. Your children need you to be by their side, to set limits according to their needs so that they are able to understand that there are behaviors that are not acceptable.
Self-control is essential on many occasions and children must master it to avoid toxic behaviors in the future. Responsibility is a way of making them grow by being autonomous and capable of understanding themselves and others. This is not easy at all but it is possible and even more likely to achieve it if you put IE on your side.
IE as a lifeline for bad behavior
These strategies are useful for children over 4 years old, since before, due to their limited understanding, they can only guide, attend and intuit the needs of children. You will need to understand why she has some reactions and how you can prevent them. But from the age of four:
- I calm down to explain what happened and how I feel. If a child misbehaves, do not yell at him or get angry, ask him why he did it and help him find the right words. Name the emotions that have appeared: anger, rage, anger. For example: “I have hit my brother because I have felt very angry.”
- I understand the feelings of others. It’s about working on empathy. If you are misbehaving, you need to understand how your behavior affects other people. Every action has an impact on others in some way … and positive behavior will always be better for the good of yourself and of others.
- As I already understand my emotions better and those of others, now I will act being more responsible. You must help your children to find the solution to what has caused that emotional discomfort and in this way, the next time they will be able to react in a more appropriate way to the context, situation and for their own emotional well-being.
With these IE strategies, your child will begin to understand that he will not always have what he wants at a certain time and that above all, he is the one who is in control of his own emotions … A skill that will serve him for a lifetime.